Gabby Petito

Gabby Petito is a 22 year old woman from Florida who disappeared in late August. She was the creator of an up and coming vlog on Youtube about van life, in shared trips with her boyfriend (now fugitive on the run). She wanted to pursue a lifestyle of travel and snap chic pictures to convey the adventures she was having. At twenty two, she had the potential to do any and all of what she wanted to with her life. 

The cops documented an arguing in Utah (the state I live in) between Gabby and her boyfriend. Gabby was afraid her boyfriend was going to leave her behind as she had become emotional during the argument. Don't ask why I thought of my ex when this happened. Immediately I noticed the actual problem between the couple, which wasn't reported. The actual problem wasn't Gabby becoming "hysterical" and scratching her boyfriend. The real problem was the emotionally abusive nature of the boyfriend. 

This was a typical teary eyed reaction to being successfully "gaslighted" by an emotionally abusive boyfriend. There was no need for the tears, but they were there to symbolize, not Gabby's lack of control over her emotions, but her desperate need to be comforted, rather than further pushed into a downward spiral of emotions that started with her boyfriends need to be seen as the eternal good guy.

Oh, how familiar these types of scenarios have become in m own life with my ex. It was easy to see, and my heart went out to this poor little girl going through the same shit women everywhere go through everyday, until they can figure their way out of the toxic mess, assuming they ever do. Some don't. It's hard to navigate your way through a minefield of your own lies, let alone someone else's entire life and image being made up of lies. Good luck on that for those of you still going through it.

I sniffed through the clues for answers to where Gabby was, and what happened to her. The clues that came through haven't all been validated, but I'll go ahead and share what I picked up now, being that the case is near being closed as a body that matches Gabby's description, has been found. The family is currently waiting on a positive identification, but the condolences the police gave don't give us much hope that it is anybody but the once alive, cute, petite, blonde.

ARIZONA. This is a clue that hasn't been validated, but it came through so strongly I wondered if they would find Gabby in Arizona, rather than Wyoming, where she'd last been seen alive. There is a strong pull to Arizona in some way or another. There may be a connection her boyfriend has there, or someone in Arizona knew about the murder. I feel that may be where he considered hiding her body? Could that be where he is now? There is something significant happening in Arizona, that is all I can say for certain. I wonder if we will ever know what it is.

I feel that what happened was pretty easy to guess at, being that it's an age old scenario played out again and again in heated disputes that lead to one person being accidentally killed. I feel she was strangled. She told me "he just snapped". She also may have been hit in the head with a big rock. I'm seeing a little bit of blood. She was a bit hysterical (as you can imagine) when she came through, asking me to "help them find me! Please!" I calmed her by saying, "they're going to find you. I promise." She hugged me and thanked me, wanting to believe me, but she was upset.

I don't think her boyfriend meant to kill her. I think he did indeed snap and found himself staring down at a dead body wondering how on Earth to go back in time. I didn't want to speak of her as if she were dead yet, as I too hold onto hope as long as humanly possible in cases like this. This girl was likeable, and I think we're all feeling let down by the answer that appears to being given to us today. 

I see a lot of me in her, in what little I know about her. A beautiful young woman who instead of being empowered by the men in her life, was made to believe she lacked of control over her own mind. The "you're crazy, it's all your fault, control yourself" theme fed to young impressionable women, often leads to them ultimately believing it and taking it on themselves. I hated seeing her apologize for something that was done to her, rather than being able to even identify that she was in fact, the victim. 

And I know all too well, as I continue to awaken, I was often one act done to me by men with mental issues, away from being another victim who's body might never be found. A photo on a television screen. A small candlelight vigil. A weepy story that people told over and over again in disbelief, even though women are victimized and murdered as often as a man gets his feelings hurt. I am so angry about this outcome. This has got to fucking stop. I'm already teaching my sons that they are never entitled to a woman. That they can handle rejection. That they have no right to hurt a woman for any reason, 

The last image I was fed of beautiful Gabby was of her being fiercely hugged by an older woman with white hair, a grandmother, perhaps. She was smiling and radiant, and the energy was that of pure love and acceptance. 

I guess we'll know in time what part of my visions add up. Being that this story is being told to me by the victim, this may just be what she thinks happened. I have no idea how the memory works after death. It seems clarity would override everything else, but if the person is still displaying human emotions and attachment to the body, that may cause the storyline to come through differently than what actually occurred, 

Rest in  Peace, Gabby, another victim of the lack of insight and punishment we give to those responsible for being emotionally abusive. A red flag that often, if not always, goes unseen because it doesn't leave physical bruises. We need to be willing to see the abuse that appears invisible to the naked eye. The abuse that is seen a woman who's self esteem plummets in a relationship. The signs aren't that hard to see, we just expect a woman to have a few broken bones before we validate her story. Never mind the millions of women walking around with broken self worth. 

Stay safe out there sister, and take care of one another.